Practice difficult feedback conversations with AI playing a defensive recipient
Jack Cohen demonstrates how to use AI for practicing difficult feedback conversations, showing a live example of addressing defensive responses.Jack starts with a carefully structured opening: “I want to talk to you about something that I’ve noticed in a few of our meetings… The reason I want to talk to you about this is I think there are ways we can make meetings more fun, ways we can reduce the number of meetings we’re having, and as a result, some possibilities we’re not tapping for being more impactful on our users.”The AI responds defensively: “I’m always open to talking about improvements, but honestly I think our meetings are fine. I don’t see the issue. Plus I’ve got a lot on my plate.”Jack demonstrates skillful navigation of this defensiveness. Instead of pushing back, he acknowledges: “You know, I’m actually glad to hear that. I’m not glad that you have a lot on your plate, but I think this can help with how much you have on your plate.” He then gets specific about the behavior while taking ownership: “I know that I can clarify what the focus of the meeting is upfront.”When the AI doubles down (“Maybe the issue isn’t with me, but how the meetings are structured”), Jack uses another technique - finding agreement: “Yeah, you make an interesting point. There are some structural things we could change… I don’t think it’s unimportant. I just think it’s a matter of priorities.”After the practice session, Jack asks for coaching: “I want to increase my feedback skill. Give me general feedback, as well as feedback on how I respond to defensiveness.”Jack notes you can practice in different modes: “Sometimes I do it in written mode like Tal did, which gives me more time to process. Sometimes I do it in voice mode because it feels more real, like a real-time conversation – I can feel it more in my body.”➡️ Practice your exact feedback conversation with AI playing a defensive recipient. Get the wording right, navigate resistance skillfully, then ask for coaching on your approach - all before the real conversation happens.Check out Jack Cohen’s course (not sponsored, he’s just the real deal).